“Adversity is like a can of gasoline. You can dump it over your head and go up in flames. Or you can put it in your tank and it will fuel you up the hill to success. It is the same can of gasoline.”
It is your choice. A lot will happen to you over the course of your lifetime; but just because something happens to you does not mean you have reached the outcome. Your response will factor into the outcome. You may not always be able to control the event, but you can control your response. Put more emphasis on your response to events, and watch your outcome change. Do not let the incident become the outcome!